Sometimes you just can’t give anymore

I took a bit of a blog break last week.  Not a bit, really.  I took a whole week.  It was a week off that I needed.

Easter weekend was crazy busy for us.  Not only because we’re a pastor’s family and it’s always busy over Easter weekend, but we had the added bonus of a 24 hour trip to Minnesota.  We stopped at Dan’s parents’ house on Easter Sunday for dinner and then headed up north.  We had to pick up the four wheeler because I sold it to someone here in Wisconsin–and also so my parents could see the kids.

So between Sunday and Monday, we spent 14 of 24 hours in the van.  The kids were champs and everything went smoothly.  That I’m very thankful for.  But because of the short trip, it was a bit more stressful than usual for me.

Who am I kidding?  It was a TON more stressful.

Since becoming one of the main care-takers for my parents in the last few months, I’ve learned a lot.  It’s not easy taking care of things for two grown adults, especially when those adults are still “with it” and giving their opinions and wanting to help.  I’m not saying I don’t like it that way–it’s a whole lot better than the alternative.  But as a mom, it feels like I have two more kids.  Two very vocal kids.

For the last few months, I’ve been giving.  Giving of myself at work, at home, at church, with my parents.  I’ve put myself out there a lot.  After the busyness of last weekend, I just had to let go of something, and not give in one area of my life.

Hence the blog vacation.

It’s important for us busy moms to be able to make those choices.  To know where we want to step back from and stop “giving” so much for a while.  We need to know when to say no, when to stop and smell the roses instead of picking the roses for someone else.  If you don’t take that time to take care of yourself, you won’t be able to give to anyone.  Even if it’s a tiny thing like I did with not blogging for a week, it makes a difference.  As moms, we need to recognize when we have to say ENOUGH.

So I took a week off of my blog. I took a lot of naps this weekend.  I spent time on the couch watching the Back to the Future trilogy with my kids.  I crocheted and ignored the housework.  And now I’m ready to conquer the week, and take care of these three goofballs.

Easter Silly

They are SO worth it.

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2 Responses to Sometimes you just can’t give anymore

  1. Paula says:

    It sounds like you did the right thing by taking a break. : ) It’s amazing how therapeutic than can be.

  2. I hear you, Essie. I’ve done a very similar thing lately myself. Just kind of realized that there is a limit and I was past it. How easily we forget that we can’t give to the people we love or care for the people we love if we don’t give to and care for ourselves. It doesn’t serve anyone, really, to be a martyr for the cause. It just makes for overtired and resentful Mammas.
    Kudos to you for looking after you! And those kids are darn cute!
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