When you’re a working mom, you have to know where to find balance in your life. It can be very difficult to work 40 hours a week and still balance the kids’ school, homework and activities, let alone the laundry, cleaning and cooking. I’ve learned, in the past few years, that I can’t simply do it all myself.
I used to be quite the control freak in my kitchen. I didn’t like Dan to cook, and if he did, I was usually in there, telling him what to do and going crazy when he didn’t do things MY way. It was just easier to do it myself. When I started working full time, though, I had to work every Monday evening. So I had been choosing easy things for Dan to make, like chicken nuggets and fries. Somewhere along the way, though, he took things into his own hands and started rooting through the freezers and cupboards for dinner ingredients.
Now, I can happily say, Dan and I share the dinner cooking. Sometimes he’ll make up a recipe–like his chicken gumbo soup that turned out delicious–and sometimes I’ll give him a recipe. There are times like this past Tuesday, where I will put a roast in the crock pot and he’ll come up with the sides and make those before I get home. Last week when I was working on packing all day he cooked dinner, because he knew darn well if I had a choice we’d be having take out.
Let me tell you, this is the best thing ever! After I let go of my control issues, I realized having a cooking husband took my stress levels after work way, way down. I know that if I’m running late or have to run some errands, Dan is getting dinner ready. The house may still be a mess and there may be 6 loads of laundry waiting for me, but dinner is made, and that’s a start.
It’s all about teamwork. You have to see what works best for your family–and this works great for mine. As a working mom, though, you have to remember that you can’t do everything yourself. You have to enlist your family members for help, or you’ll only get 2 hours a sleep a night. When you’re a working mom, life is about delegating, and realizing it’s ok if you don’t do it all.
Any working moms out there? What’s your favorite teamwork tip?